This year I’ve committed to praying for my husband more diligently.
The other day I was thinking about it, and while each of us has friends and a great church family whom we could (and do) call upon to pray, there is no other person who knows my husband more deeply and intimately than I do. And there is no one who knows me more than him.
Therefore, we have such a privileged position when it comes to prayer – we can pray for each other in ways that others wouldn’t even think of. We can direct our prayers with accuracy and love. We can use the daily reminders brought on my living in close proximity to serve as prayer prompts.
We can pray for each other around those sensitive areas that the other person might not be ready to talk about yet.
What a gift it can be when we pray for our spouse intentionally!
One way I’ve been doing this recently is that I set a reminder on my phone for 10am every day to pray for my husband. (I didn’t realise, but apparently our calendars are linked so my husband gets this notification too – he told me he loves it, because it reminds him to pray for me!)
Then I wrote a list where I assigned a generalised prayer point for each day of the week.
This is my list, but you could definitely make up your own prayer points to suit:
M – Maturity in Christ. This is something Paul often tells us he prays for the believers he addresses his letters to. None of us will reach full maturity in Christ until we are completely transformed into His image, so this is a great thing to pray for your husband
T – Trust in Christ. “Trust and obey, for there’s no other way, to be happy in Jesus, than to trust and obey.” Each Tuesday I pray that my husband will put his trust in Jesus as he walks in obedience to him.
W – Wisdom. I pray that my husband will have wisdom from God in whatever challenges he is facing that day – whether spiritual or earthly.
Th – Theology. I pray for my husband to grow in his understanding of and love for God.
F – Friendship. On Fridays I pray for my husband’s friendships, that they would be a source of joy and encouragement to him.
Sat – Seeing God. I pray that my husband would see God’s hand mightily throughout his day and week.
Sun – Sexuality. I pray for my husband’s sexuality (with thankfulness!) that God would use it for His glory.
Each day when the reminder goes off, I take a minute to recall what the prayer point is for that day, and then briefly pray for my husband in whichever way that point best applies to him at the moment.
It’s so simple, but such an effective way to be building up your husband and practically loving him.
Why not give it a try?